Paul and His Mother

Happy Birthday Son -

I’m sure you and your dad are enjoying your special day. I hope you are enjoying all the jokes and humor you add to all in heaven.

I miss you lots and as you always told me every time you called “I LOVE YOU”
I don’t have your address so can’t send a present but am throwing many many kisses and hugs to you.
Keep smiling and give yourself a pat on the back for all the happiness you brough to all…

I love you,

~Mom

To My Brother Paul…
Today is your birthday, Happy Birthday to you.
Knowing that you turned another year old I hold my breath…
I didn’t get to see you, but I could feel you in my heart.

Time has change over the year Paul, and there are things that haven’t changed…. One is how much you are missed.
Even though you may not be here, I still think of you every day…
there are days when my eyes fill with tears, and then there are days I look and stare with a smirk and wonder if you are near.
No mater where you are, you are still my brother and I love you dear..
You are someone who will always be a stone, a rock that made a monument in my life.
I am grateful to have you as a brother, I am saddened that you are gone, I am only hoping you are happy, and you have found peace, that you find that place of calm, understanding, that feeling of comfort that no matter what, when and where, you are a person that is loved & missed by so many!

May you enjoy this blissful day, wherever your soul is, that you will take your day of birth and remember what great years you had on this earth. I will take this day to remember all the fun times, all the memories of you being the person, I looked so much up to, and I wanted to be. I hope you are proud, and I hope you can relax.
Please enjoy this time with our Dad and please know that I love you.

Happy birthday brother, I love you!!!

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Hello Kitty was my Brothers Friend…

Paul would say Hello Kitty Makes me Smile!

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‘magic is a bridge’ he said at last’
a bridge that allows you to walk
from the visible world over into the invisible world,
and to learn the lessons of both those worlds’

Love you,
~ Your sister, Catherine Seven

Please submit more storys about Paul! I would love to hear them and share them, Paul has many great tales and would love to keep filling this site with just that… Thank u

Memorial Tree Dedication for Paul (Winiarski) Kitwin and Todd Ziegler

Class of 1984 planted a tree in honor of my brother Paul (Winiarski) Kitwin and another classmate Todd Ziegler, on the grounds of Loyola High School.

Dedication for Paul and Todd, at 6:00 p.m. on October 2nd on the Loyola school grounds. 

Catherine,
I just wanted to send you a quick note and hope you can pass this information on to your mother and your brothers if they are interested.  Our 25 year class reunion for Loyola’s class of 1984 will be on October 2nd and 3rd of this year.  We have planted a tree in honor of your brother and another classmate of ours, Todd Ziegler, on the grounds of Loyola High School.  We will be adding a plaque with Paul and Todd’s names.  The dedication will be on Friday evening at the school grounds before the homecoming game.  All of your family members are invited to attend.  Please pass this along to your family members and I will get the definite time to you soon.

Thank you,

Mary Wojciechowski

I will post more once I get date and time!

Today is the anniversary of my brother Paul, who passed 1 year ago today. Not only am I reminded of the pain today but reminded of what a WONDERFUL person Paul was…

Paul was a very special person to many different people, and touched many people, and animals in so many ways! I want to thank Paul for being the brother that I always looked up to, and wanted to be like, if it wasn’t for him in my life I can honestly say the path I led wouldn’t of been without him.. and I thank Paul for that…

Today not only do I remember/reflect on Paul, but also remember my father who passed 17 years ago today… and thanks to that STRONG man, the Winiarski’s are who we are… strong, caring and smart… My brother had allot of the positive traits of our father, and I got to be reminded of that when I had our older brother Chuck visit us last month! It was a great reflection of courage, love and dedication my brother Paul and Father Chuck will always be remembered by. Thank you my Family for being there! I love you all and Dad and Paul we all miss you soooooooo much!

After Paul’s passing, mom really wanted a remembrance spot for Paul, so she got in contact with an amazing local artist in Mankato MN (where Paul was born and raised). After she got the “ok” from mom’s side of the family, she reserved a spot where the Deusers lie and asked the artist to create a stone for Paul. Mom really wanted Sea Shells on it because during Paul’s last vacation to Hawaii, while he was there walking on the beach, he called mom and asked her what she wanted and all she said was for you to be happy! and some sea shells please (mom loves shells)
About Sea Shells on the stone: after Paul passed, Suzanne gave those shells to mom and she had the look of them carved into the stone for Paul.

To visit Pauls Rememberance Stone please go to Calvary Cemetery in Mankato MN
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PS - PAUL I miss you so much! Gosh Darn it! I want you to come home!

“Nelson” Paul on Answer Bag… http://www.answerbag.com/profile/?id=133716

Happy Birthday Paul

Here is a very special picture of Paul, his wife and there family vacation to Hawaii..
Thanks Diana for this!

During times of difficulty and loss, Paul was my support. No one gave me the unique and generous support that Paul did. Paul was one of the very few people on the planet that I could actually cry in front of. His compassion and his wisdom helped me through some of my darkest days. There are no words to express the appreciation I feel for him helping me through those rough times.

What I’ll miss almost as much as Paul’s compassion was his innate sense of fun. He loved a good laugh and we continually pulled pranks each other over our 14 year friendship. He wrapped my entire car up in yellow police tape, switched the polarity on my light switches, left me ominous messages on my shower wall with Scrabble tiles, and made me outlandishly tacky gifts, like a lamp made from a prest-o-log with a black, plastic plant pot for a shade. (It worked, of course. Paul insisted that I plug it in and turn it on.)

I thought I’d pulled a good one on Paul when I left a seven foot fabric palm tree on his front porch while he and Suzanne were in Hawaii. (Heh-heh-heh). But after he returned he did not mention it at all. I asked him about it and showed him the picture, and he laughed, saying it was a good joke but the tree had been stolen before he and Suzanne had returned home. I believed him.

Ten months later the fabric palm tree came back to haunt me thanks to Paul’s creativity and patience. He staged it in our carport festooned with hundreds of blinking Christmas lights. It flashed so brightly that two of our neighbors had to keep their blinds closed. It was Christmas time and we had our outdoor lights up. Between the house lights and the flashing palm tree, our house looked like a gay disco from the 70’s. But the joke didn’t end there. Paul followed up with a calendar showcasing how the fabric palm tree had spent the last 10 months. There were pictures of it in Freemont tourist spots, in our friends’ yards, and in playgrounds. The December picture showed the fabric palm in a Christmas tree lot with the caption, “I think I’m adopted…”

In 1992 after I had to put my sweet, young cat, Trixie to sleep, Paul gave me one of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever received. Through my tears I asked Paul why Trixie was taken from me while she was still so young. Paul responded, “There is no why. There is only what you gave to her and what she gave to you.”

Paul gave me support and laughter and great food and heartfelt companionship over our 14 year friendship. I am a better person because I knew him. I will always miss him. But, mostly, as heavy as my heart is, I am filled with gratitude that I had him in my life.

Darrell DeRochier
Edmonds, Washington